Chapter 4 – Tips to Change Your Thinking
Negative thoughts, doubts, and fears are quite pervasive. We all have doubts and are afraid. However, if you want to live a worthwhile life, you have to get some degree of control over negative emotions and thoughts. These tips will help you create a positive atmosphere, even when facing difficult challenges. With the right mindset, you’ll have the best shot at staying motivated and reaching your goals.
Tip #61 – It’s Not About You
It is important to remember that 99 percent of the time, how people behave is not about you; it’s about them. You will never truly change your mindset if you don’t realize that the behaviors of others have nothing to do with you.
Tip #62 – Don’t Take Things Personally
Don’t take things that happen personally, because everyone has underlying issues that are not apparent on the surface. Stop making baseless conclusions based on a tiny amount of information that you have of others.
Tip #63 – Try to Find the Good in Everything
Life is too short to live in misery and blame everything else on your problems. Never blame, complain or take things personally. Instead, focus on the more important things in your life, those things that you are grateful for.
Tip #64 – Collect References that Reinforce Your Positive Belief
Deliberately collecting references to reinforce your positive beliefs will help to weaken your limiting beliefs. Think about two or three positive beliefs that will benefit you the most and start to collect real-life evidence to support these selected beliefs.
Tip #65 – Practice Visualization
Visualization is an effective technique for changing your belief and reaching your goals. Your mind can’t differentiate between something vividly imagined and real life. Using visualization can provide your subconscious mind with manufactured pieces of evidence that will reinforce positive thinking in your mind.
Tip #66 – Avoid Negative People
The people you surround yourself with have a tremendous impact on your mind. If you spend most of your time around negative people who always put you and your abilities down, you would never feel confident.
Tip #67 – Avoid Instant Gratification
Avoid seeking instant gratification. The good feelings you get are only temporary and will disappear quickly. Instead, you need to follow your heart’s calling. Put your best effort into everything you do, and you will experience long-lasting, happiness and satisfaction.
Tip #68 – Live up to Your Values
This is one of the single biggest factors that determine your selfesteem. To raise and maintain high self-esteem and shift your
mindset, it is important to take action and move toward living up to your values.
Tip #69 – Stop Comparing Yourself with Others
We are all unique, so stop comparing yourself with others. Instead, you need to learn to accept yourself completely, then find your purpose, your mission, and work on it with all your heart.
Tip #70 – Look for the Good in Other People
What you give out, you will receive back 100 fold. If you give out love and care to others, you will get affection and support back. If you give out anger and hatred, you will receive the same in return. When you treat others well, you feel good in return.
Tip #71 – Practice Meditation
The best way to become more present in your daily life and change your mindset is to practice regular meditation. Meditation trains your mind to be in the present moment.
Tip #72 – Completely Focus on Present Activities
Learn to be more aware of the environment around you when participating in your day to day activities. Really look at things, noticing small details like shape, colors, taste, weight, smell, etc. This will allow you to cultivate present moment awareness.
Tip #73 – Be Aware of Your Thoughts
Start paying attention to the thoughts that are going on in your brain. Don’t judge. Don’t label any thought as good or bad. Just observe them objectively. Stop taking ownership of your negative thoughts.
Tip #74 – Minimize Activities That Stop You from Being Present
One of the best ways to be more present and change your mindset is to minimize activities that make your brain dull and unable to focus on the present. Some activities make you present, and some don’t. If you aim to become more present so you can accomplish your goals, then you have to remove activities that aren’t helping you accomplish those goals.
Tip #75 – Face Your Fears
When you expose yourself repeatedly to your fears, it can begin to lower their intensity. It can help to take the sting out and make it more manageable for you.
Tip #76 – Have Faith in Yourself
One of the core pillars of strength against fear is faith in yourself, your vision and your ability to succeed. Believe in yourself and
your vision and know that you have all the resources you need to become the person you want to be and reach your goals.
Tip #77 – Trust in Your Own Value
Don’t let any compliments boost your ego or any criticisms shake your confidence. Always do your personal best at the moment and continually look for ways to improve next time.
Tip #78 – Be Optimistic
Nothing is certain in life. When you expect the worst, you tend to fear the unknown. Instead, realize that you’ve been given a choice to create the future you want. In life, you get what you expect, so try and find the good in every situation and the people around you.
Tip #79 – Always Show Your Real Self
Always show your true personality. Never be afraid to fully express your thoughts and feelings. Let the world know who you are and what you stand for, and you’ll come across as a genuine, confident person who inspires people to break out of their own shells.
Tip #80 – Always Speak Your Mind
If you don’t think that anybody understands you, then you need to speak up and be assertive. Let people know who you are and what you need. This is the only way they can clearly understand you.